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InSideOut Coaching

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We are excited about the publication of InSideOut Coaching! With decades of combined experience in sports and psychology, we have formulated a new and refreshing approach to the world of sports and coaching that promotes the healthy development of our young people. InSideOut Coaching challenges coaches, organizations, parents, teachers, and everyone who is in a position of influence to raise the bar and begin effectively using sports as a virtue building, co-curricular activity. This is a must read for everyone involved in the world of sports.

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Individual Issues

Here are a few recommended books:

Alchemy of The Heart – Michael Brown

An Unquiet Mind – Kay Redfield Jamison (bipolar disorder)

Buddha in the Waiting Room – Paul Brenner, MD

Co Dependent No More – Melody Beattie

Darkness Visible – William Styron (depression)

Feeling Good – David Burns, MD

Focusing – Eugene T. Gendlin

Full Catastrophe Living – Jon Kabat-Zinn

I Don’t Want To Talk About It – Terrence Real (men and depression)

Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead – Sheryl Sandberg

Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation – Dan Siegel, MD

Reclaiming Your Life – Jean Jenson

Soul without Shame: A Guide to Liberating Yourself from the Judge Within – Byron Brown

The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook – Edmund Bourne, Ph.D.

The Drama of the Gifted Child – Alice Miller, Ph.D

The Girl Within – Emily Hancock (buy used – out of print)(women)

The Pearl Beyond Price: Integration of Personality into Being: An Object Relations Approach (Diamond Mind Series, No. 2) - A. H. Almaas

The Presence Process: A Journey into Present Moment Awareness – Michael Brown

Where To Draw The Line – Anne Katherine, M.A.


Couples Issues

Here are a few recommended books:

Getting the Love You Want – Harville Hendrix, Ph.D

How Can I Get Through To You – Terrence Real

In Search of Pleasure: A New Map of Love – Carol Gilligan, Ph.D

The New Rules of Marriage – Terrence Real

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – John Gottman, Ph.D


Parenting and Developmental Issues

Here are a few recommended books:

In a Different Voice – Carol Gilligan, Ph.D (girls)

Inside Out Parenting – Dan Siegel, MD (best parenting book ever!)

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child – John Gottman

Raising Cain – Michael Thompson (boys)

Reviving Ophelia – Mary Pipher, PSY. D (girls)

The Developing Mind – Dan Siegel, MD

The Family Crucible – Augustus Napier

The Wonder of Boys – Michael Gurian (boys)


Co-Parenting Issues

Here are a few recommended books:

The CoParenting Toolkit, The essential supplement for Mom’s House, Dad’s House – Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.

Mom's House, Dad's House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried – Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two – Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.


Enneagram Resources

Here are a few recommended books:

A Christian Perspective on the Enneagram – Richard Rohr

Discovering the Enneagram: An Ancient Tool a New Spiritual Journey - Richard Rohr

Ennea-type Structures Self-Analysis for the Seeker – M.D. Claudio Naranjo

Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-Discovery Guide -- Revised & Updated - David Daniels and Virginia Price

Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery - Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson

The Enneagram for Teens – Elizabeth Wagele

The Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI, Version 2.5) - Russ Hudson & Don Richard Riso

The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram: Nine Faces of the Soul - Sandra Maître

The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types - Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson

The 27 Subtypes – Bea Chestnut

Understand Yourself; Understand Your Partner – Jennifer P. Schneider, M.D., Ph.D. & Ron Corn, M.S.W.



Here are a few recommended books:

A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” – Marianne Williamson

Centering Prayer and Inner Awakening – Cynthia Bourgeault

Immortal Diamond:  The Search for Our True Self – Richard Rohr

Interior Castle – St. Theresa of Avila

Reflections on the Unknowable – Thomas Keating

The Monk and the Philosopher: A Father and Son Discuss the Meaning of Life – Jean-Francois Revel and Matthieu Ricard

The Naked Now – Richard Rohr

The Power of Now, A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment – Eckhart Tolle

The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - Michael A. Singer

The Wisdom Way of Knowing: Reclaiming An Ancient Tradition to Awaken the Heart – Cynthia Bourgeault

Wisdom Jesus – Cynthia Bourgeault


 Trauma and Abuse Issues

Here are a few recommended books:

Banished Knowledge – Alice Miller, Ph.D

EMDR: The Breakthrough “Eye Movement” Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety – Francine Shapiro, Ph.D

Getting Past Your Past – Francine Shapiro, Ph.D

Reclaiming Your Life – Jean Jenson, LCSW

The Wounded Heart – Dan Allender, Ph.D

Understanding the Borderline Mother – Christine Ann Lawson

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? – Karyn McBride


Recovery and Life Transitions

Here are a few recommended books:

Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book)

A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis

Boundaries – Cloud and Townsend

Daily Affirmations for Forgiving and Moving On – Tian Dayton, Ph.D.

Divine Therapy and Addiction: Centering Prayer and the Twelve Steps – Thomas Keating

Driven to Distraction – Edward Hallowell

Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul – Melody Beattie

Mindfulness and Acceptance for Addictive Behaviors – Edited by Steven C. Hayes,  Ph.D. and Michael E. Levin, M.A.

My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me – Anne Bercht

Season of Life – Jeffrey Marx

Stop Walking On Eggshells – Paul Mason

The POWER of SURRENDER – Judith Orloffe, M.D.

The Wisdom of Menopause – Christine Northrup, MD

Tuesday’s With Morrie – Mitch Albom

Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom – Christine Northrup, MD


Informative Websites

The Enneagram Institute -

Alice Miller -

Dan Siegel’s Mindsight Institute -

The Gottman Institute -

The EMDR Institute -


EMDR in the NEWS

5 EYEWITNESS News Report on EMDR Therapy

Additional resource links:

Evidence for EMDR Therapy-NY Times

Can You Benefit from EMDR Therapy

How EMDR Opens a Window to the Brain


Free Downloads

Reflective Writing

5 Easy Steps to Effective Reflective Writing

Shaping Up Your Relationship

10 Coaching Points (for men) on How to Keep Your Romantic Relationship in Good Condition

Trigger Worksheet

A Guide For Working Through Destructive Behavior Patterns
“Trigger” – an unresolved wound that ignites an inappropriate (and often childlike) response due to overwhelming feelings of anger, shame, sadness and/or anxiety.

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